10 Tips for Your First Month of Breastfeeding

No matter how much you prepare, the first month of breastfeeding can feel overwhelming. Many moms find this time especially challenging and may even consider stopping. But hang in there—it truly gets easier!

To help you navigate those early days, here are 10 practical tips. Don’t miss number 10—it’s often overlooked but can make all the difference.

Why is the first month so tough?

Breastfeeding in the early days is a unique experience for every mom. But there are some common threads we all share: we’re tired, recovering from delivery, and adjusting to life with a newborn.

Your breasts may be sore, possibly even engorged or dealing with clogged ducts. You’re probably exhausted, and your baby may not be latching or feeding as you expected. It’s normal to feel unsure about whether your baby is getting enough milk or gaining weight at the right pace.

I get it—the struggle is real. Breastfeeding can be physically and emotionally demanding, especially in the beginning. I remember feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, and unsure of what to do.

But the best advice I ever received was simple: "Just make it through the first two weeks." And guess what? Once I hit that mark, I kept going. Before I knew it, I had made it through the first month!

10 Tips for Starting Breastfeeding

If you can push through that first month, you’ll be well on your way to a rewarding breastfeeding experience. Here’s how to ease the transition:

1. Stock Up on Supplies for Pain Relief

Lanolin was my go-to for soothing sore nipples, especially in the early days. Lansinoh’s 100% pure lanolin is a great option. I also discovered coconut oil, which works wonders for sore nipples. Whether you go with lanolin, coconut oil, or another cream, having something on hand is essential!

Consider cold and hot packs for additional pain relief - these are the best I've found. Cold can soothe sore nipples, while heat can help with milk flow and discomfort. 

Don’t forget a heating pad—it can ease those painful uterine contractions in your lower stomach, which are intensified by breastfeeding in the first 10 days as your body heals.

2. Invest in a Breastfeeding Pillow

Proper support makes a big difference in your comfort and helps your baby latch better. I relied on a Boppy pillow during my first experience, and it was a game changer! If you’re just starting out, investing in a nursing pillow can make those early feedings much easier.

3. Nourishment!

Staying hydrated is crucial for milk production. Keep a large bottle of water nearby, and drink whenever you feel thirsty. The hospital water jugs are perfect for those early days!

Breastfeeding burns a lot of calories, so it’s important to eat well. I remember being constantly hungry. Snack on nutritious foods, and don’t shy away from indulging a little! I loved having trail mix packed with nuts, raisins, and M&Ms on hand—it’s the perfect combo of healthy fats and energy boosters.

4. Use a Breastfeeding Tracker

With so much on your mind, a breastfeeding tracker can be a lifesaver. Whether you use an app or a printable chart or Daily Baby journal, tracking your baby’s feedings and diaper changes will help you stay on top of things. I also love this Talli One-Touch Baby Tracker, it's so convenient!

Here’s what to keep track of:

• Feeding times

• Which breast you started on (left or right)

• Number of wet and dirty diapers

• If pumping, how many ounces you’ve collected

This information will reassure you that your baby is eating enough, and it’s helpful when your pediatrician asks for details during check-ups.

5. Rest and Relaxation

You’ve been through a lot, and your body needs time to recover. Rest whenever possible, even if it’s just lying down or relaxing with a good show. Don’t stress specifically about getting sleep, which can be fleeting during those early days due to hormones and a disrupted schedule. Instead, focus on resting and recharging.

Relaxation is also key to milk flow. While breastfeeding, take deep breaths and do something calming, like reading or watching TV. A relaxed body helps milk flow more easily!

6. Have a Manual Breast Pump 

Pumping can be an important part of your breastfeeding journey, whether to build a milk supply or prepare for going back to work. However, starting with an electric pump right away can feel overwhelming. I recommend waiting until week two or three unless you need it sooner.

A manual breast pump like this one from Medela, on the other hand, can be very helpful in the first week for relieving engorgement or clogged ducts. It’s quick and easy without all the parts of an electric pump. When you’re ready to use your electric pump, take your time and learn the settings in a relaxed environment.

7. Focus on Full Feedings

To help establish your milk supply and ensure your baby is getting enough nourishment, focus on full feedings rather than "snacks." Feed your baby every 2.5 to 3 hours and aim for about 15 minutes on each breast (30-45 minutes total for each feeding). Keep your baby alert and actively feeding with gentle movements or a cool washcloth. Of course, always feed your baby when they’re hungry regardless of the schedule, however, striving for full feedings helps create a more predictable routine.

8. Use Your Hands

Your hands are an amazing tool during breastfeeding! Gently massaging your breasts before feeding can help get milk flowing and relieve clogged ducts. Use a circular motion, and be gentle. While feeding, a "C hold" can help milk flow more freely, signaling your body to produce more milk and improving your supply.

9. Find a Support System

Having a support system is invaluable. Whether it’s friends, a local breastfeeding group, or an online community, connecting with others who are on the same journey can make all the difference. You’re not alone, and having someone to lean on can be incredibly reassuring.

10. Contact a Lactation Consultant

This final tip is often overlooked but incredibly helpful—visit a lactation consultant. Many hospitals have them on staff, or they can recommend someone in your area. There are even virtual consultants available. A lactation specialist can guide you through any challenges, check your baby’s latch, and weigh your baby before and after a feeding to ensure they’re getting enough milk. Both of my breastfeeding journeys were so much smoother, thanks to the support and advice of a consultant.

What helped you through your first month of breastfeeding? Share your tips and experiences in the comments below!